Anger
Anger is a
completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of
control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems, problems at work, in
your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it
can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and
powerful emotion. This brochure is meant to help you understand and control
anger.
Here are 12
of the most common kinds of anger.
- Behavioural
Anger:
This type of anger usually describes someone who is aggressive
towards whatever triggered their anger… this can be another person. This
can be someone who always seems to act out, or is troublesome. Sometimes
the outcome is physical abuse or attacks against others.
- Passive
Anger:
People who use sarcasm or mockery as a way to hide their feelings,
typically express this form of anger. They tend to avoid confrontations
with people or situations.
- Verbal
Anger:
Anger that’s expressed mostly through words and not actions. Verbal
abuse is used to criticize and insult people (put them down) and complain.
- Constructive
Anger: This type of anger is a key factor in
driving people to want to join movements and groups. It’s the feeling of
being fed up with how things are going, and the need to make a positive change.
- Self-inflicted
Anger: Anger that translates in causing harm to one’s
own body. People who use this type of anger are acting out by punishing
themselves for something they’ve done wrong. Some examples include
starvation, cutting, and overeating.
- Volatile
Anger: This form
of anger occurs in varying degrees… it comes and goes. It can just appear
out of nowhere, or build into something bigger. It can either explode or
go unnoticed. It could even be expressed verbally or physically.
- Chronic
Anger: Ever come across someone that’s
seemingly angry for no reason, or mad all the time? More than likely, they
were exhibiting this type of anger. People with chronic anger are just mad
in general.
- Judgmental
Anger: Putting
other people down and making them feel bad about themselves, or abilities,
is a form of judgmental anger. This person expresses their feelings by
making those around them feel worthless.
- Overwhelmed
Anger:
This person relieves stress by shouting, and flying off the handle,
when they can’t take situations and things that are happening around them,
anymore. When things are just too overwhelming… which is why it’s called
‘overwhelmed anger’.
- Retaliatory
Anger: This is
probably one of the most common, of the bunch. Retaliatory anger usually
occurs as a direct response to someone else lashing out at you… has that
happened to you once or twice ?
- Paranoid
Anger: This anger comes about when someone feels
jealousy towards others, because they feel other people have or want to
take what’s rightfully theirs. Or they may act out because they feel
intimidated by others.
- Deliberate
Anger: Using
anger to gain power over a situation or person. A person expressing this
form of anger may not start out angry, but will get angry when something
does not turn out the way they wanted. Or, someone doesn’t see eye to eye
with something they planned.
Anger
Management Tips
Relaxation
Some simple
steps you can try:
- Breathe
deeply, from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest won't relax you.
Picture your breath coming up from your "gut."
- Slowly
repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax," "take it
easy." Repeat it to yourself while breathing deeply.
- Use
imagery; visualize a relaxing experience, from either your memory or your
imagination.
- Non
strenuous, slow yoga-like exercises can relax your muscles and make you
feel much calmer.
Practice
these techniques daily. Learn to use them automatically when you're in a tense
situation.
- Cognitive
Restructuring
- Problem
Solving
- Better
Communication
- Using
Humour
- Changing
Your Environment
- Timing:
- Avoidance:
Psychological
Counselling
If you feel
that your anger is really out of control, if it is having an impact on your
relationships and on important parts of your life, you might consider
counselling to learn how to handle it better. A psychologist l can work with
you in developing a range of techniques for changing your thinking and your
behaviour.
If you have
any queries/problems,
We are here
to help you solve your problems.
Feel free to
contact us.
The “Psychologist” Psychological Counseling Centre’s at
Chennai:- 9786901830
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Pondicherry:- 9865212055 (Camp)
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