Sex Questions and Answers for Teen ages
What
is sex?
- The word sex is used
to refer to a variety of sexual activities, and can mean different things
to different people. When people talk about sex (sexual intercourse) they
are usually referring to penetrative sex, where a man inserts his penis
into the vagina or anus of a sexual partner. However, there are many
sexual activities that people enjoy doing which don't involve sexual
intercourse, for example oral sex or mutual masturbation. The act of sex
is also not just physical; it can involve strong emotions and have a
significant effect on people's feelings.
How
do you have sex?
- Sexual intercourse
between a man and a woman is quite simple. When a man's penis becomes
hard, he places it inside a woman's vagina, and moves it in and out. This
creates friction, which can be pleasurable for both the man and woman.
After a while, this friction will usually cause the man to have an orgasm
and ejaculate. It may also cause the woman to have an orgasm, although it
can take a bit of experimentation and practice to get it right! You can
have sex in lots of different positions, but one of the most common and
intimate ways is for the man to lie on top of the woman, so that they can
kiss and cuddle while having sex. Anal sex (also known as anal
intercourse) is when a man puts his penis into the anus and rectum of
another man or woman.
What
is safer sex?
- Safer sex is taking
precautions to reduce the risk of acquiring a sexually transmitted
disease, including HIV, during sexual activities. It is wrong to assume
this only applies to young people as STDs and HIV can affect anyone at any
age. To have safer sex it is important to either use a condom or to make
sure you and your partner are not infected with an STD. Alternatively, as
STDs and HIV can be transmitted through sexual fluids and blood, there is
the option to perform sexual acts that do not involve any contact with
these. Therefore safer sex can be non-penetrative sex and just foreplay.
Where
can I get condoms from?
- It will depend on
which country you are in, but the best place to buy condoms is usually a
chemist or supermarket. Condoms are often available from vending machines
in public toilets and in some countries they are available for free or at
low-cost from sexual health clinics.
Where
is the G-spot and what is it?
- The G-spot is a
controversial term as some sex researchers dispute its existence. However
most believe it is an area located behind the front wall of the vagina,
between the back of the pubic bone and the cervix. When stimulated, it can
produce intensely pleasurable feelings for the woman, and may cause her to
have an orgasm.
Where
is the clitoris and what is it?
- The clitoris is a
small pea-sized lump towards the top of the vaginal area above the urethra
(urine hole) and the entrance to the vagina. It is very sensitive and when
stimulated can lead to orgasm.
Does
a broken hymen mean that a girl is no longer a virgin?
- Many people believe
that a girl is only a virgin if she still has an intact hymen. The hymen
is a thin membrane of skin that partially covers the entrance to the
vagina. This membrane can bleed when it is torn as a man’s penis enters
the vagina. Neither the presence of the hymen nor bleeding during
intercourse can truly indicate virginity. Some girls are born without
hymens, others will have hymens that stretch and don’t break during sex,
and some will have torn their hymens during sport, inserting tampons or
masturbation.
How
do you masturbate?
- Men usually
masturbate/wank by holding the penis and moving their hand up and down rapidly
until they ejaculate ("come"). Women rub their clitoris and
vulva and may move one or several fingers up and down inside their vagina
until they orgasm. Everybody has their own way of masturbating that feels
good for them.
Is
too much masturbation bad for you?
- Masturbation is a
normal and natural activity and is not bad for you unless you masturbate
so much that you make your genital area sore. Masturbation does not stunt
your growth, damage your health or cause you to become physically or
mentally weak. If it did, the vast majority of people in the world would
be very short and unhealthy. But over masturbation is not advisable. So do
it in limit,
How
often do people have sex?
- Sexual appetite is
entirely a matter of personal taste. Some people have sex once a day and
some once a month. It probably varies for most people depending on whether
they are in a relationship, how busy they are and how they feel. Most
people think about sex far more often than they do it.
Is
there a way of stopping premature ejaculation?
- Many men find the
best way to prevent premature ejaculation is to think about something dull
to regain control over their time of ejaculation. When first starting a sexual
relationship, some men find that the sexual excitement causes them to
ejaculate before intercourse has even begun. With time most men learn how
to control this. Wearing a condom can help as it can reduce sensitivity a
little. Its good to consult the doctor to know how to overcome from
premature ejaculation problems. Effective treatment available to prevent
the premature ejaculation.
Does
sexual intercourse hurt?
- Is there a need for
lubrication? Sex can sometimes be painful for a woman if she is nervous or
tense. Stress and fear can mean a woman does not get sexually excited
enough to produce natural lubrication, or that she involuntarily tenses
her vaginal muscles, making penetration difficult. Sex can also hurt the
first time a woman does it as her hymen may be torn. If sexual intercourse
is painful, using a lubricant can help to make it more comfortable. When
using a condom it is important that a water-based lubricant (such as KY
Jelly) is used, as oil based lubricants (such as Vaseline or moisturising
cream) can cause the condom to tear and break. Ensuring that the woman is
as relaxed as possible, and that intercourse is initiated slowly, can also
help to make things more comfortable. If a woman experiences a deep
internal or burning pain when she has sex, she should discuss this with
her doctor, as it could be a sign that she has an infection or other
medical problem. Sex is not usually painful for a man (unless the penis is
bent into an awkward position), so he should also check with his doctor if
he experiences any pain during erection or intercourse.
If
a woman experiences problems reaching orgasm with her partner can she do
anything about it?
- It is not always
possible to achieve orgasm through vaginal penetration alone; it often
needs more direct stimulation of the clitoris, which you could request
from your partner orally or manually, before, after, during or instead of
intercourse. Talking to your partner and exploring what stimulates you and
what doesn't should help you to achieve orgasm during sex.
How
do you French kiss?
- French kissing, or
making out, is kissing with open mouths and touching tongues.
What
is oral sex?
- Oral sex involves
giving or receiving oral stimulation (i.e. sucking or licking) to the
genitalia. Fellatio (also known as a ‘blow job’ or ‘giving head’) is the
term used to describe oral sex given to a man. Cunnilingus (also called
‘giving head’, ‘going down on’ or ‘eating pussy’) is the term used to
describe oral sex given to a woman. Analingus (sometimes called rimming)
refers to oral stimulation of someone’s anus. If two people have oral sex
with each other at the same time it is sometimes called a 69 because of
the shape their bodies make. A woman cannot get pregnant from giving oral
sex to a man, even if she swallows his sperm.
Which
STDs are transmitted through oral sex?
You can only become infected with or pass
on an STD if you or your partner is infected with an STD in the first place.
The following sexually transmitted diseases or infections can be passed on through
unprotected oral sex:
- Hepatitis
A, B and C
- Herpes,
especially if the sores are in the infectious stage
- HIV
(Human Immunodeficiency Virus) is fairly low risk in terms of transmission
via oral sex
- Gonorrhea
- Syphilis
- NSU
(Non-specific urethritis)
- Chlamydia
- Yeast
infections such as thrush are fairly low risk in terms of transmission via
oral sex
- Genital
Warts
If you are concerned about becoming
infected with an STD as a result of oral sex use a condom when giving oral sex
on a man or a dental dam (latex square) or cut open condom when giving oral sex
to a woman.
Is
receiving oral sex with a condom safe?
- As
long as they are used properly i.e. they don't split or burst, condoms can
be very effective in protecting against STDs when giving oral sex to a
man. When giving oral sex to a woman a thin square of latex called a
dental dam, or a cut-open condom can also be used to protect against
possible transmission of any existing STDs. Flavoured condoms and dental
dams are available to make using them more pleasant during oral sex.
Can
you pass on or become infected with STDs as a result of kissing on the mouth?
- No,
you cannot pass on or become infected with an STD as a result of kissing
on the mouth. However, you could pass on a cold sore (herpes simplex,
HSV1) to your partner through kissing.
Do
you need to use condoms during anal sex?
- Yes,
it is important to use condoms when having anal sex to reduce the risk of
passing on or contracting an STD. If two people are considering having
anal sex they should make sure they use a good quality condom and a
water-based lubricant such as KY Jelly.
If
my partner is using birth control, do we still need to use a condom?
- Birth
control, such as the contraceptive pill, IUS, or contraceptive injection,
is extremely effective at preventing unwanted pregnancies. However, these
do not offer any protection from sexually transmitted diseases or
infections. Using a condom in addition to a form of birth control will
protect both you and your partner from passing on or becoming infected
with an STD and will also provide extra protection against pregnancy.
Is
it safe to have sex when a woman is having her period?
- Not
all women feel comfortable having sex when they are menstruating and some
men dislike the idea of blood being present during sexual intercourse.
However, there is generally nothing wrong with having sex during a woman's
period and it will not cause either partner any harm. This said, it is
worth remembering that HIV and a few other sexually transmitted infections
may be passed on more easily during a woman's period (both from the woman
to the man and from the man to the woman), so a condom should always be
used if there is any doubt over either partner's sexual history and HIV
status. HIV cannot be 'created' by having sex with a woman on her period
if both partners are HIV negative however - it is only ever passed from one
person to another.
Whom
to contact for Counseling & Treatment
Dr. Senthil Kumar is well experienced Homeopath
& Psychologist who treats many cases of sexual related issues, with successful outcomes. Many of the clients
get relief after Taking treatment & attending psychological counseling with
him. Dr. Senthil Kumar visits Vivekanantha Homeopathy Clinic &
Psychological Counseling Center, Velachery, Chennai. To fix an appointment,
please call or mail us:
Vivekanantha
Homeopathy Clinic & Psychological Counseling Center, at
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